Oh Sheye! I have been away for 3 weeks but have been thinking of you all so much over the Christmas season. When I read this poem, I cried….I cried for you, Crayton, the boys and Ivy. I cried for Ava. I cried for myself.

The reason I cried for myself is that I chose that exact same poem for my mother’s death notice when she died just 3 weeks before Bronte was born. That last paragraph – well it really sums everything up doesn’t it?

I have said this many times before…how I wish I could make it all better. I really do.

Love k8

It will always be just recently. Don’t ever think anyone would assume you are ‘getting over’ your loss.. and don’t ever stop talking about her.

I stopped to think about you all at midnight on NYE and wondered how you would be feeling. I know though that I cannot ever fully fathom it. My heart just goes out to you all and hope that this year brings you many happy memories and Ava moments as you can fit in. xx

oh sheye,
i truly felt this post. felt it to the core. your words do not go misunderstood. i think of your family often, and still pray that while you are forced to spend some time away from your baby, that all of you will be together again, and that you will find comfort in that. the passing moments, days, months or years do not make this less in any form.

lovely thoughts of comfort and peace drift and dance your way. not only from all of us, but from your angel as well.

best to you and your beautiful family,
martha

Sheye,

I don’t think you ever get over it, you just learn to live with it.

We lost our first baby in 2001 and there isn’t a day that goes by now I don’t look at my lovely 4 year old and wonder how my first daughter would look now, and what kind of person she’d be.

Your a mummy of four and always remember that.

L xx

I think of you and your family often. Over the past year I have followed your photography and loved reading your stories. You have touched my life (made me laugh, cry, understand, relate) even though we have never met and I knew we probably never would. When your darling Ava passed away my heart could not comprehend the loss. Simply trying to imagine the depth of the pain you and your family felt brought tears to my eyes and a lump to my throat. I feel sick when I try to envision the struggle you must face every day without her. I am so sorry. If there were a way I could possibly help you I would, but I know in my heart that everyone is powerless when it comes to such significant loss. In the face of that realization all I can do and say is I will pray for you. Every day. Each night. I will pray. God bless you and your family.

XOXO from Texas

Sheye… I think recently covers forever when its the loss of your child and I dont think anyone would ever think anything other than that. My heart aches for you and your family since the day I read of your loss.. Your Family and your sweet sweet girl have not left my thoughts always kind of dancing around in my head reminding me just how precious and short life can be… reminding me that no matter how frustrated I can get with my kids at times.. that nothing is forever.. that in a blink of an eye any of our lives can be changed forever.. Recently Sheye.. is forever.. for you it will always be recently and for us as well..

Elizabeth

I can not fathom how much pain you are or will carry Sheye, it is my worst nightmare.

We will be here to share your tears & milestones.
Ava will never be forgotten x

sheye,
thank you for putting into words exactly how i am feeling. it has only been a month for me, but i am ALREADY feeling like people expect that time is healing me. so, the way you put that really hit home. thank you so much. i appreciate your words.
leslie *
(i am the one whose blog you looked at and commented on last week)
thank you again.

My heart. My stomach. My every bone and muscle. Ache for your loss. It will undeniably never heal. It saddens me more than I can express for your loss. I am so sorry for you and your family. I have three little angels of my own. I don’t know you Sheye but, all I can say is that you seem to be an amazing mother and woman. You loved your Ava and you so eloquently captured the moments of her life. I wish you peace. You will never be over it but, I hope that your heart does begin to heal. Again, I am so sorry.

Ava will be forever young. She will not suffer growing old, she will never know any pain or sorrow. She is in a better place and is surrounded by your love and the love of God. Her beautiful life and sadly, your grief which you so unselfishly share, is a lesson for others; the knowledge that we only have the moment, now. Ava’s story and your honouring her reaches out and touches many, many more people than you could ever know.
Thank you for sharing your story and her life with us. Your pain will not lessen but you will become stronger, your heart will heal in places, except that one, and you will continue to move forward because that’s what a little girl would want for her mother–not to be too sad.
Never forgetting but always remembering and others will too. Thanks to you. God Bless and take care of you and your family xxxx